Welcome to “OTHERHOOD TRAINING”
What is Otherhood? A parenting style you cannot define or know how to do. Parenthood to otherhood (parenting adult children, undefined and elusive), is something you aren’t quite sure what it is or even how to do it! Welcome to parenting your adult children.
This course is for empty nest parents, forging a new relationship with their adult children and who may be struggling with how to get there.
Hello Student’s. For returning students, welcome back to class, for new students, Welcome!
As usual, we have a whole lot of baggage when it comes to what we have learned about being a parent. So much effort goes into learning how to be a parent, and almost none goes in to teaching us how to stop parenting, nor are we told we will be entering the club called “Otherhood” (not a parent, not-not a parent) where we might be hated, chastised for our child rearing decisions, or become obsolete from our children’s lives as they become adults. We never think that our kids will focus solely on what they are angry about and not remember any of the good stuff! It’s a weird space where we are no longer wanted for parenting, the thing we spent the last 18 years doing, and immediately, that tie is severed, and we are supposed to know how to do that. Is any of this resonating with you? Have you been feeling very hurt, isolated from your kids, wondering what happened and how your kids could be treating you this way? Oh boy. I felt this and, well, we need to talk!
My journey started off thinking it was a flaw in my kids, from perhaps naivety, maybe selfishness, or ungratefulness. As most things, we can get trapped in thinking that it is about them, when in reality, the universe just gave us a gift, ourselves and our time back to take a deeper look! The question becomes, will you take a look at your part, or be lazy and simply say its them and fall back on the hierarchy that demands all kids must respect you? Many of us learned a hierarchy to parenting and that kids have to respect their elders. “NEWS FLASH- THEY DON’T”
With that gift of time, we also have to learn to deal with the emotions of our children who are now adults with critical thinking to decide for themselves how they feel about all things, including us! We have to learn a different way to parent adults who have grown into beautiful adults who want to be heard for their own feelings, pain, so they can get to the good stuff!
No parent is perfect, and we surely have messed them up somewhere along the way. Even if we had no idea we were doing so. We have to listen and hear them to communicate how loved they were then and are now, to get passed the anger and to get to a good relationship. A parent is always telling and instructing, in Otherhood, it is a collaboration of listening, asking questions and sharing feelings.
If you have felt:
•Heartbroken over your relationship with your children
•Confused why they are angry at you
•Confused by why they are focusing on negatives and ignoring the good times
•Confused by how they could be so disrespectful to you
•Hurt that they won’t return your calls or texts and forget to call on holidays and Mother’s Day!
•You would like to learn how to resolve conflict
•You would like to understand how to parent your children who are now adults
•You would like to be friends with your children and grow a new relationship
This may be a course for you! In this course I share with you some Master Class tips I received directly from my own pain and misconceptions as I went through and continue to go through “Otherhood.” It was a painful learning experience I want to share with you to help you through Otherhood!
All classes are accredited through International Association of Therapists. (IAOTH)